Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes With Your Hands?

Unfortunately, what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you, because the wrong hand movements can communicate that you are a low-status, beta male.

To make matters worse, your hands can be particularly tough to manage because, let's face it, when you feel nervous, the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands!

For success with your dating and seduction of women, make sure you don't make the following body language mistakes with your hands.

MISTAKE ONE. Displaying your anxiety with your hands.

You do this when you:

1) Shred napkins.
2) Make your hands into fists.
3) Sit on your hands.
4) Hold something and play with it.
5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs.
6) Hold your hands unnaturally still.
7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble.

Although you might be feeling nervous, the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect you feel that way.

Instead you want to convey that you're calm and in control. Nothing attracts a woman more than a man who's laid back and confident.

MISTAKE TWO. Putting your fingers into your mouth.

When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers, you are, according to psychologists, doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother's breast.

For a baby, breast feeding provides comfort. When we became toddlers, our thumbs replaced our mom's nipple.

And then as adults, biting our thumbnail does the same thing. Ever noticed that when you're out in public, you mainly bite your nails when you're under pressure?

THE SOLUTION. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table.

Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward.

Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Most of the time this means having them about 18 inches or half a meter apart, your palms facing each other, with fingers curved slightly upward.

As your palms face each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms convey honesty and being completely comfortable with yourself. Having the back of your hands facing her can often convey that you're hiding something.

Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your thumbs and watch the women flock to you.

7 Strategies to Make Room for Money

Laws of the Attraction notwithstanding, there are several
external ways that you can make room for more money
in your life.

Yes, there are those of you who can manifest whatever
you want, whenever you want. This article is for
those of you who may need just a few extra tools.

First, it is vital to create a space that can be filled
with what you really want.

Start by going through your closets. Remove every article
of clothing, shoes, and purses you have not worn in at
least a year.

How do you know what to get rid of?

Use the following as a guide:

1. Use your intuition. Trust it.
2. Ask yourself if you love it.
3. Does it fit?
4. Do you use it?
5. Do you need it?
6. What memories does it bring up?
7. Again, use your intuition.

Take all of these clothes, shoes and purses to your local resale
store. You will start receiving money immediately.

Bonus feature: The space you have created will now be filled
with what you really want. Be patient.

Second, go through every drawer in your home and remove
all the junk.

You know what junk is.

Plastic forks from takeout; rubber bands and plastic bags
you are saving for some reason.

Men (and women!) go to the garage.

- How many screwdrivers do you really need?

- How many cans of old, unused paint are taking up space?

Clean out the garage and only put back in what you use.

Sell the rest at a garage sale or give to the Goodwill.

There, you have a tax credit as well as money.

Clean out your office desk. Throw away any document that is
unnecessary.

I know, you are afraid you will throw something away
you may need in the future.

Well, I understand.

This particular article you are reading was originally written
in 1986. I did not throw it out. In 1986, I did not have
a computer, so here we are. Boy, am I glad I saved this.

The information still holds up.

Okay, back on track.

Create as much order as possible in your home, garage and
office. If you are a creative individual, this may be
difficult as creative types are visual and like to see
things. Make it work for you.

As you eliminate all this junk, you will start feeling a
sense of satisfaction, accomplishment and freedom.

If you do not have these feelings, you are not yet ready
to make room for money I your life.

Your desire and your feelings must be in alignment

You may also have feelings of fear and doubt. Learn to
trust yourself and allow the process to work for you.

Third, sit down and make a list of all the people
you do not have a great relationship with.

This list includes people you have judged, blamed or
criticized. This same list includes people who have judged
blamed or criticized you!

Visualize each individual, and, as you do, forgive them.

Forgiveness is one of the most important tools for making
money in your life. Generate appreciation towards these
individuals in order to heal yourself.

Eliminate grudges. Grudges contract the body, mind and
spirit. Release and let go. Step by step, expansion is
on the way.

Fourth, pay your bills on time. It is very important to keep
your money agreements, so pay your bills graciously.
If you avoid paying certain obligations because you have
insufficient funds, or are displeased with the service of
someone whom you owe money, use visualization.

Bring these people into your mind's eye. Allow your body to
experience negative feelings you may be holding on to.
Breathe deeply and look at your resistance. Generate
appreciation and love towards these vendors.

You certainly were grateful when you used the card, so
bring back that gratitude!

Keep breathing until all discomfort is released; until you
can visualize this person with little emotion or reaction.

If you do not currently have the money for a specific obligation,
phone the vendor and explain the situation.

Remember, it is only temporary!

Even the U.S. government will negotiate.

Fifth, act as if you have all the money you want. Notice,
I use the word ‘want', as opposed to ‘need'. You have all
that you need. In order to attract what you want --
the Universal Law of Attraction says it is already there,
but the rational mind sometimes butts in-- you must act
as if you have all you want.

If you had all the money you wanted, what would you
be doing for work, if anything? If you are not doing what
you love, what brings you joy, money may appear as
a slow leak, instead of a gusher.

Present as prosperous a picture as possible. That does not
mean you have to spend money.

- Appropriate grooming is cheap.
- Smile more often.
- Indulge yourself with long luxurious baths.
- Create a candle light dinner, even if for one person.
- Look in the mirror and say, " Hey, I like you!."

These simple tools will help you feel and look better.
The Universe will look at you and say, "Alright, you've got
it! Let's give you a little more."

Sixth, give some money away. Give away what you want
more of – it really works. Tithe clothing items in lieu of
money if that feels better. Don't purchase anything new
unless you eliminate one item form your home or office.

Give willingly and unconditionally, without expecting to
receive anything in return.

Do it because you can.

Seven, call up your parents. Tell them you love all they
have done for you. If you cannot get as far as the love
word, express your appreciation. Let them know how you
feel in a positive way. If your parents have passed on,
write them a letter telling them about all the things and
circumstances you appreciated them for but never had
the chance to share.

They will see this letter, no matter where they are.

Remember, the Law of Attractions is powerful. It provides
you with whatever you think about, both wanted and
unwanted.

Let these seven strategies help you think more clearly
about how to make room for money in your life.

How to be a Miracle Maker: Create the Love, Money, Body and Spirit

Here's a fascinating secret about miracles: You can't necessarily always place an order for magic at will, but you can deliberately create the conditions -- environment, atmosphere and attitude -- that make miracles a thousand times more likely to occur. Want to know how you can create a miracle-friendly world? By taking these practical steps, you will bring magic into your relationships, body, finances and more!

Your ability to Make Miracles is in direct proportion to your willingness to:

1. Tell yourself more truth about the situation you want to transform

The more honest you are about where you're really at, the more personal power you have to realize your dreams. By aligning yourself accurately with what is real, you retrieve all of the life force you've invested in holding together false situations and relationships. This re-captured energy then attracts the goals you desire. In this universe what's congruent gets the energy. What's not congruent doesn't get the energy. Where aren't you being honest or accurate about some aspect of your life? What truth about your life is right now safe, timely, helpful, nurturing and liberating for you to acknowledge to yourself?

2. Act "outside the box"

All magic occurs beyond the boundaries of your current belief system. What obstacles lie between you and moving outside your "comfort zone?" Where could you let your vision for your life be more outrageous? More fun? More of what you really want?

3. Withdraw from collective mass consciousness

Step beyond general consensus to remove the limits of what's possible for you to have. Many people have changed society -- and had fun -- by doing "what couldn't be done." You can too. When you withdraw your energy field from the energy field of the tribal collective agreement, you can create outside that agreement. Be "in the world, but not of it." Where in your life could you step a little further outside of mass consciousness thinking?

4. Use the Law of Attraction: Energize what you love with gratitude

Our magnetic field of energy is always (all ways) attracting exactly what we need to create our heart's desires. Discover the ancient wisdom of multiplying what you have with deep thankfulness. As you pour the vibration of appreciation into the love, health, prosperity and joy that you already have, this vibration will magnetize more of the same to you. It's the physics of the Universe. What aspects of your life could you right now be genuinely grateful for?

5. Experience "concrete, physical" reality as energy

When we choose to experience so-called "solid" things as the vibrational energy -- fields of energy -- that they actually are, these aspects of our reality become infinitely more malleable and flexible in responding to our intentions. Where are you willing right now to open to experiencing your body -- and other people, conditions, animals, rocks, emotions -- as an energy field (life force/flow dynamic) rather than as fixed, static, solid objects?

6. Reclaim your Personal Power

Are you energizing ideas and activities and maintaining relationships that no longer serve you? When you choose to invest in those relationships and situations that do feed your dreams, you regain tremendous personal power. When you choose to call back your spirit from the people, ideas and activities that no longer serve you, you regain tremendous personal power to invest in those relationships and situations that do feed your dreams. What are you tolerating, avoiding or denying in your life right now? Where are you compromising, sacrificing or settling for something less than what you really want? Where could you invest your time, energy and attention that would really serve you?

7. Relax your grip on your belief system

When you release your vise grip on the rigid, fixed beliefs you inherited from society, the things can shift that need to shift for something new, fresh, wonderful and miraculous to happen to you. What are your beliefs about how life operates? How important are these beliefs to your survival, identity, reputation (need for approval) and sense of worth? In what areas of your life could you right now relax your need to control the exact functioning of the people and events around you?

8. Build Your Chi – Your Internal Life Force Energy

Our free attention, time and energy are the lifeblood of our ability to create and attract what we desire in life. The more we consciously manage and steward these natural assets, the more we can build a reservoir and reserve of miracle-producing power. Where could you be more accessible to energy-giving situations and people? Where could you be more inaccessible to energy-draining situations and people? How can you naturally and easily "build your internal life force chi" through activities that are fun for you? What in your life are you not experiencing as an adventure?

9. Connect directly with Spirit

Your soul is in charge of your life! Your spirit has been running the show from behind the stage curtain since the beginning of time. Open a direct line to the wonders, wisdom, support and guidance of your own brilliant soul plan. How do you mediate/pray? Is it as effective as you would like? Have you tried a moving meditation?

10. Align your personality with your soul

When you're aligned with your true intentions in being here this lifetime, prosperity flows automatically with no effort or doingness. Align your everyday lifestyle with your soul vision and receive all the support, energy and love you need—and begin to enjoy the ride! What actions could you take that would bring your life more in accord with your life purpose? What changes could you make to be more authentic in your life?

11. Allow yourself to receive from Spirit

The primary joy and purpose of our spirit friends -- the Ascended Masters, guardian angels, spirit guides, nature devas, spirit animals -- is to assist us to reach our life goals. Do you regularly ask for assistance, and let in love and energy from your other dimensional allies?

12. Embrace your Shadow

What you choose not to see, you can't change. What weaknesses, faults, fears and shortcomings do you feel you have -- socially, physically, spiritually, romantically, financially, sexually? Are you willing to open up to your soul's point of view on your so-called "dark side"?

13. Hang with people who nurture you

By your own pre-arranged conscious design, old soulmates deliver messages to you that trigger timely awareness, alchemy and awakening. What people and environments are not entirely safe, supportive or inspiring for you to be with? Where could you refuse to let another be reckless with your heart? Where could you be less reckless with another's heart? Where could you celebrate the success of others?

14. Listen to your body

Our body is a natural feedback system to keep us abreast of how well we are dealing with the pressures and demands of life. What lessons is your body reflecting to you? What wake-up calls from your body have you been denying? What's the weight you are carrying around? What's your body dying to tell you?

15. Follow the guiding signs and synchronicities Spirit gives you everyday

Our soul is always (all ways) trying to steer us toward our goals. We live in an interactive, responsive universe that is designed to fulfill our deepest dreams -- if we would only play along! Allow your intuition to guide you to the forms and vehicles that will empower your spirit to express fully. What messages and signals has the Universe been sending you that you have been ignoring, misinterpreting, or are afraid to act on?

16. Choose to be innocent (free) of the past: Welcome surprise and serendipity

Open the door to more magic, meaning and money in your world by learning to suspend skepticism and conditioned responses. Learn to surf through the surprises of life, instead of being swept away by them. Where could you approach your goals with more flexibility, openness and sense of play?

17. Feng-shui your life: Give yourself a "spaceshift"

Feng-shui is the ancient art of consciously managing matter and energy within space. By intuitively re-arranging the elements of your daily life, you create the space to nurture the freedom, opportunities and effectiveness you desire. By clearing out the old, dead elements of your life, you create a natural vacuum and an unblocked channel for fresh, new energy and ideas to come into your private and professional life. How could you unblock your energy now? Where can you re-arrange the ways you live your everyday life in a fresh, new, intuitive way?

18. Live your life as an experiment

Consider your life as the latest -- and greatest -- experiment by human consciousness to express Heaven on Earth -- or just to have fun playing in the 3rd dimension. Where could you lighten up, celebrate and have more humor in your approach to living?

Cancel Cancel. How Giving Attention to What You Don't Want Brings More of it

Next time you catch yourself saying 'cancel cancel', simply replace it with your new thought when you ask yourself, "So, what do I want?"

Have you heard yourself or others say 'cancel cancel' after catching that a negative declarative statement was made, usually about something unwanted?

Saying 'cancel cancel' is actually giving it more attention, almost like burning embers on a fire. Saying 'cancel cancel' keeps the thought alive and fuels it, like blowing on the embers to start small flames.

The Universal Law of attraction can be defined as ..."The Universe responds to whatever you give your attention and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted." So, in the moment you observe yourself declaring something you don't want, simply ask yourself, "So, what do I want" and make that your new declarative statement. It may feel awkward at first, but you'll love the rewards!

Next time you catch yourself saying 'cancel cancel', simply replace it with your new thought when you ask yourself, "So, what do I want?"

Have fun with this.

Enjoy the Magic of Prosperity

There is an art and a science to prosperity. The art is playing with the magic of prosperity. The science is aligning with the physics of prosperity.

Play at Life!

Why does the money run out? Why doesn't passion stay around? Why doesn't health last?

Perhaps because we're not playing. Instead, we're analyzing and strategizing. By not being innocent, open, willing, spontaneous and flexible, we kill the magic of natural prosperity.

Results are important in life. And life works out best when played like a kid's game -- in the spirit of a fun adventure between two best friends. When approached lightly -- not as a deadly serious contest -- life actually responds more readily to our wishes.

Ride the Pulse of Prosperity

Just like the body's circulatory system, prosperity has a pulse, a rhythm. When we're willing to go along with the pace and pattern of life's changes, we prosper. When we tighten up, hold back, or try to control or micro-manage life's vacillations, we cut ourselves off from life's natural bounty. The magic dies.

Align with Attraction

Do you feel stuck? Are you struggling to make life work? Tired of your own soap opera reruns?

Get your life aligned with the Law of Attraction!

Scientists agree with spiritual teachers. Prosperity is simply the natural physics of the universe. Science calls it the Law of Quantum Physics. Metaphysics calls it the Law of Spiritual Attraction. Like energy attracts like energy. Like vibration attracts like vibration. Like qualities attract like qualities. This is Instant Karma in all its beauty and fierce justice.

Scientifically speaking, all physical matter in life is pulsating electromagnetic energy that undulates in a wave motion -- and thus, naturally connects with those aspects of life that are on that same wavelength.

An Inside Job

So how do you put cash in your pocket, romance in your bedroom, and vitality in your body?

The Latin root of "prosperity" means "to make happy, favorable, successful, fortunate, thriving. Prosperity is not an outer circumstance or state. Prosperity is an inner feeling or space -- an experience of oneself as joyful and flourishing. Outer events are the reflections of how you have been flowing from your Source Energy. This is what a good creator does -- flow energy.

You can attract prosperity with your personal magnetism. As you focus your attention on your dream, the Law of Attraction brings your desires to you automatically.

True prosperity is having what you choose to have as you choose to have it.

Here are a few effective, pragmatic ways to tap into the River of Plenty.

Master the Law of Giving and Receiving

When you give freely of your gifts and talents, you receive back in kind. The key to success here is how you give, not what you give. When you come from a place of bountiful giving, you receive plentifulness in return. When you give from a place of lack or limitation (for example, expecting something in return as a pay-off), you receive back the same vibration or quality -- a reflection of lack and limitation. When you give from a space or energy of fear (scarcity consciousness), the universe mirrors that poverty back to you.

Align Your Personality with Your Soul

Align your personality's actions and attitudes with your soul purpose and passion -- and your life will unfold in a profoundly easy, delightful and bountiful way.

Walk with an Appreciative Heart

What you appreciate in life appreciates -- increases, grows. The more aspects of life you appreciate, the richer you become inwardly -- and, in turn, outwardly, according to the Law of Attraction.

Prosperity Begets Prosperity

Prosperity is a living, organic state of being. Prosperity defies the laws of economics in that it's not a commodity that we have less of when we give some away. Prosperity grows greater for the giver as it's given. The more you share, the more you end up receiving. Give and you shall attract. Nature does abhor a vacuum!

Draw from Your Prosperity Consciousness Bank Account

Vibrations of good times can be stored up for retrieval during challenging times. Prosperous times can remind you emotionally and physically of how the vibration of happiness feels -- and shift you palpably into those good vibes in the present.

Experientially re-living peak moments from the past is more transforming than mentally remembering an event. "Positive experiencing" is even more powerful than "positive thinking."

Make Room for Miracles

Create the attitude and conditions that make miracles more likely to occur. Fear less and dare more. Invite surprise. Welcome serendipity. Be open to unexpected sources of income, resources and support -- especially those that don't "make sense" to the intellect with its limited range of possibilities.

And stay open to invisible assistance from your spirit friends -- be they angels, Ascended Masters or spirit guides.

Ask "Why not?"

Take the road less traveled. Be different, creative, fluid, experimental. See fresh possibilities, better combinations, and new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. Exude excitement and enthusiasm about daily life. The electromagnetic energy of this exuberant, open attitude will attract magic, meaning and money into your world.

Quit Energizing the Past

The past only exists to the degree we unconsciously drag it into the present. Take charge of how yesterday affects your today. Regard the past as an eternal stream of "practice takes" that allow you to "get it right" in this moment! And energize only the elements of the past that feed the plentiful reality you are creating now.

Forgive ... then Forgive Some More!

By learning to forgive ourselves and others, we give ourselves the gift of freedom from the past. Forgiveness loosens the debilitating constraints of anger, resentment, cynicism, regret and despair -- and releases our hearts to swell with aliveness and compassion. Give yourself and others Blanket Forgiveness -- now!

Take Charge of the Present Moment

"Now" is the only time you can control. All success and bounty flows from the power of the vibration you are in each moment. By learning to be present in the current moment -- in the "current" of the moment -- you naturally receive the treasures that it carries.

Feng-shui Your Life!

Give yourself a "Spacelift." By intuitively re-arranging the elements of your daily life, you can create the quality of time and space that will increase your ability to receive abundance. Clear your path of illusions and lies so that your creating attention flows solely to your dreams, not to the distractions and myths of life.

Tap the Power of Surrender

Worry serves as a signal that we must tend to some aspect of life. But when we have done all that we do for the moment, it's time to let go of anxiety and surrender to Universal Support. When intense emotions arise -- whether delight or grief, excitement or fear -- abandon yourself to them. Don't hold on! Relax that death grip on your feelings -- and, in doing so, on the inflow of life's aliveness and bounty!

Feel Extravagantly

Feel the pain as well as the joy. Shake with fear. Let the anger rise up and roar! If you're not truly feeling, you're not truly alive -- you're just going through the paces. You're only having a NLE -- Near-Life Experience.

You can't have money, love and health without feeling your emotions. Primal Life Force is the energy that animates all of life's rewards. That same exact energy comprises the essence of all emotion. The core natures of prosperity and emotion are one and the same: Source Energy. Make friends with your feelings and you open the floodgate to easy, natural abundance in your life!

Hidden in Plain Sight: How to Attract What You Want in Life

You can't fool Mother Nature. But she sure can fool you. What a beauty she is -- wowing us with her spacious skies and purple mountains majesty, and taunting us with her tantalizing tapestries of flora, fauna and frolicking creatures. From the spine-tingling glacial lakes of Alaska to the heart-warming mystical canyons of Arizona, I've experienced some of her best creations. Nature and I have been very intimate. I felt I knew her secrets. Boy, was I wrong!

I admit, I only wanted her for her looks and the way she makes me feel. It never occurred to me that Mother Nature has a deeper, more compassionate, protective side. I ignored her whispers that she has gifts for me -- treasures more valuable than gold. And I was blind to the clues she scattered on my path.

In my youth, if Mother Nature told me her wild birds could guide me back to a lost path, I'd have felt she was nutty as a squirrel. Knowing that I wouldn't listen to her, she sent a skilled sage to get her message through my thick skull. The Native American medicine man asked a simple question: "Did you know that rattlesnakes only bite "civilized" people and leave tribal people alone?" I felt the "crazy" shaman had a few rattles loose in his brain. But his words were intriguing. "How could that be?" I wondered. "Why would a snake choose to bite some people and leave others alone?" His preposterous claim haunted me.

Unbeknownst to me at the time, this bold assertion propelled my life into a new direction that would take me off my known map into uncharted territory. Mother Nature was luring me in. I was the cat. She was the nip. She was determined to get my attention!

A Helpful Hawk

My first clue to the guiding, caring aspect of Mother Nature occurred when a bird led me back to a hiking trail I'd lost. I'd gotten about 50 yards off the path, heading in the wrong direction. Suddenly a bird screeched. Looking up, I spotted a low-flying hawk circling intently over a particular spot. An investigation was in order. When I arrived at the spot he was focused on, he flew off. Wow! I found myself standing smack in the middle of the lost trail! My winged friend had delivered me back to my path.

Dancing with Danger

Mother Nature had just begun to rearrange my understanding about the inner workings of the natural world. She arranged for me to experience safety in situations that are usually hazardous for humans. To protect their offspring, wild boar usually attack people who intrude into their space. When I surprised a family of 40 wild boar with babies and they were more curious than hostile toward me. A poisonous scorpion crawled harmlessly over my foot without showing any inclination to sting. During a lengthy close encounter of the wily kind, a pack of coyotes sniffed me, checked me out thoroughly, and then went nonchalantly on their way. And I stomped my foot within an inch of a nesting rattlesnake -- without triggering a bite or even a rattle. Now I have the confidence to walk -- and even sit -- peacefully within a couple feet of resting rattlesnakes.

Ah, Mother Nature and my "crazy" medicine man -- their ingenious game plan was bearing fruit. The clues I was picking up from my uncharted journey were beginning to form a fresh picture about how life really works. I could now see that situations that appear dangerous are not always the case. What other surprises did Mother Nature have in store for me?

The Magical Mystery Tour

Hidden in plain sight is a magical space about which native tribes sing -- and "crazy" shamans teach. This place is real, physical and tangible. The core nature of this space explains why birds guide you back to your path and snakes bite some people and not others. It's a world of vibrational energy and attraction. To enter this new land, we need only to truly "see" what's right in front of us.

Are you ready for an extraordinary journey of discovery and adventure?

Bugs 'n Bunny

Have you ever been buzzed by a luminescent dragonfly who's trying to get you to notice her? Landing next to you, she waits for you to talk or play with her. After several minutes of intimate conversation, you're ready to go on your merry way, but the persistent bug circles around you, stopping you in your tracks. She perches on the nearest flower, wanting more interaction with you. Why'd she do that?

Here comes Peter Cottontail hoppin' down the bunny trail. When he spots you, are you so uptight and agitated that he disappears faster than you can say, "Abracadabra?" Or, are you so relaxed and accessible that old Pete hangs around to get a bit closer to you?

What makes the difference between a creature wanting to hang with you, or get away from you? You make the difference.

Pickin' Up Good Vibrations

The Beach Boys sang about it: "Good, good, good, good vibrations ... giving me excitations." Bugs and bunnies feel good around people who give off good vibes. When you are in a state of openness and trust, animals feel open and trusting around you. When you give off fearful or threatening vibes, animals feel fear and either move away or feel threatened and defensive. It's up to you what vibration you put out.

Lady dragonfly enjoyed bathing in your playful energy and came back for more intimate interaction. On his first visit, Mr. Cottontail felt the harsh quality of your energy and disappeared. Later, when you were feeling happy, Pete was ready to do the Bunny Hop with you.

Attracting Love

Our emotional state affects not only our appeal to insects and animals, but also to humans. Other people respond to our vibration in exactly the same way as bugs and bunnies do. The vibe that attracts wild critters is the same vibe that attracts people and circumstances to nurture us -- like being loved or supported. The vibe that attracts a viper to bite us is the same vibe that attracts people and circumstances to "bite" us -- like being rejected or betrayed.

Have you noticed that when you are in great spirits, your conversations with friends are more fun and clear? People want to talk to you in the supermarket line or gather around you at work -- just like Peter Cottontail who wants to hang around and soak up your vibes. Or, are you so upset and irritated that people can't wait to get away from you -- and are looking for an excuse to disappear into a rabbit hole?

Getting the Goodies

When we pay attention, Mother Nature always guides us towards connection, harmony and support. She shows us how our emotional states affect every aspect of our lives. Our vibes determine our safety and success in life.

Mother Nature is still having her way with me -- and I keep coming back for more. I'm grateful she sent the "crazy" medicine man whose intriguing question led me to see the world with fresh eyes and an open heart.

Women and Bad Boys: What is the Attraction?

"Bad Boys".

If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear
these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself.

There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you
in, even as your head tells you to "beware"!

So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not necessarily
that they are more physically attractive or smarter or more successful
than the "nice guys". In fact, they can have fewer of these qualities, yet
be harder to resist.

So what is it? Let's begin by defining these guys. This
term is generally applied to males who treat women poorly. Do these
behaviors ring a bell?

*calling at 8:30 on a Saturday night to ask if you want to
get together

*not showing up for a date- followed by no phone call or
apology

*never having any money when you are out

* forgetting or ignoring your birthday and other important
dates

*flirting openly with other women when you are together

*hitting on your good friend(s)

*making booty calls at 1am, after they've had a night out
with others

*is doing time for a serious felony

Instead of asking "what is it about these guys"; let's
instead examine what it is about the women who can't resist them. The
following are actual statements from women who have a history of
attraction to these guys. See if any of these sound familiar.

* "It's never BORING with him. He's unpredictable and
exciting."

* "He's strong, aggressive and self-assured; I feel safe
with him."

* "It's not his fault; he's trying to get his life
together."

* "I haven't met anyone else that makes me feel the way he
does."

* "He's so charming and passionate."

* "He tells me how much he likes me, so he must really
feel something for me."

* "He needs me."

* "He doesn't come across as needy and desperate."

* "I can't believe I've attracted someone like him."

Now, on the face of these, they seem pretty benign. We all
seek at least some of these traits in the men we choose. So, where's the
problem?

Essentially it's in his inability to meet the woman's
fundamental needs. She is the one doing all (or most) of the giving. The
question then lies in; "what's in it for her?"

The answer can be found by exploring three basic issues:

*level of self-esteem

*capacity for intimacy

*roles that she has been in throughout her life

If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate
who communicates both verbally and non-verbally to her that she is valued
and respected. She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive
self-worth. She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy,
reciprocal relationship.

If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses
someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.

If a woman is capable of true intimacy, she is open to the
true availability of the other person. She wants him to be a full and
active participant in the relationship. She can allow herself to be open,
vulnerable and able to take as well as to receive all that true intimacy
offers.

If intimacy is difficult, she choose someone who is
distant, hard to connect with and not emotionally and/or physically
available.

If a woman has had a healthy role in her relationships
since childhood, she will choose someone with whom she can continue this
healthy interaction.

If a woman has been too long in the role of rescuer,
caregiver or the one who sacrifices for the good of others, this will
probably be the role she will seek out in her relationships.

Fortunately, most women fall somewhere in between on these
issues. So the task is to evaluate yourself in each area and decide on a
course of action that will help you to choose a "nice guy", who stirs your
senses and meets your needs while being truly available for a real
relationship.

Begin with an assessment of what you value most in life
and cannot live without.

Once you know what is most important to you and believe
that you are worthy of achieving it, you will have taken a giant step
towards finding the right partner for you.

It Never Rains On A Right Attitude!

The decision to win in life belongs to you, not to anyone else. No one else can make that decision for you. No one else can open up the top of your head and pour a can of luck down inside of you. The victory is available to you, so is the defeat. Notice I said the victory is "available", not automatic!

Feast Or Famine!

Have you ever noticed how things come and go in cycles? Everything in nature has cycles and so does victory and defeat. When we are in the victory cycle everything we do just falls in place. When we're in the defeat cycle even our crystal ball will tell us, no, that was just a "snow ball" that hit you! Yeah, Right!

It seems the victory cycle always ends too quickly and the defeat cycle always lasts too long. I don't think there is really a great imbalance here, but it really does seem like it especially in the defeat cycle.

Why do some people seem to settle into the defeat cycle? One reason is many people somehow think subconsciously they are getting what they deserve. Don't laugh! I have met and talked to them. This may not be a problem with you, and it's strange but they think mistakes they've made, and decisions they've made are the reasons.

There is something that gets cross-wired in their brain and actually makes them feel better to cause some form of lasting pain or punishment to themselves. And, the longer they go through it, the better they feel because they're removing guilt.

And, Round And Round We Go!

But, about as quick as the guilt disappears, then the circumstances suddenly reappear and they realize they didn't obtain what they desired, their emotions hit another bottom and the defeat cycle starts over again.

If this has ever happened to you take courage, there is very effective way out of it. But, to the person going through this dilemma it's tragic; because their attitude makes the pain of the circumstances much worse.

But, when a person comes to an understanding of their purpose and reason for living, he realizes that it's not something he deserves and opens the way to become a renewed man.

It's as if that old attitude has been erased and a new life has been formed. At one time or another maybe you feel like you've failed in life. And, maybe you feel like you're stuck in a rut of defeat. But, just because you've failed and made some mistakes, doesn't mean you have to settle for a cycle of defeat to more failure.

All-Out-War!

In everyone's life a little rain must fall, but, not everyday. And, if rain is an everyday occurrence with you then it's time to chase that demon all the way across West Texas and stir up some victory stronger than a garlic milkshake. And, the first thing to do is make an attitude adjustment.

"Oh No," I can hear somebody saying now! "My attitude is just fine." No it's not! Don't get mad at me now. I'm just a messenger. If you're in a cycle of defeat that's been your best friend so long it keeps you rubbing where you've already got a rash, then we need to do some attitude adjusting.

Without the proper attitude toward your circumstances, you will have a near impossible time of turning failure into victory. It's not that an "attitude" by itself changes anything; it's that the right attitude puts you in the right frame of mind to recognize the change when it comes.

Do you want to know what a failure is? I thought so. A failure is nothing more than circumstances that need a different perspective. You can take any failure you're going through and turn it into a victory. But, you've got to be able to see the big picture. And, the right attitude is what will allow you to see the big picture.

Looks Can Be Deceiving!

Without the right attitude you will only see what it looks like. And, what it looks like is not what it really is. There is somewhere hidden in that mess you're going through a breakthrough that will cause you to start dancing.

Here's a quick question for you to think about if you don't think your attitude can hide your victory from you. How many times have you jumped up and started dancing and shouting for joy with an attitude that's saying "there's no hope, my goose is cooked, I'm dead as a dodo?" Huh? Think about it.

And, right in the middle of that "there's no hope attitude", you had a hard time seeing the big picture. What's the big picture? It's the unseen, unobvious, insignificant facts that are staying hidden from you, but nevertheless are still there, and they are the things that will take this mess and turn it into a baptism of fire.

Just remember, the things that are unseen are often more real than the things that are seen because the seen is obvious to everybody. But, only a person who's looking for the big picture often sees the unseen. Here's a quick tip for you. If you can see the solution real quickly, keep looking for another solution, that's probably not the one that will work!

Easy AS ABC??

Maybe you've never thought about it like that before, but, that's the reason so many troubles in life take so long to solve. The obvious is not always the pathway that ends up solving the problem. But, we just keep beating the "dead horse", of the obvious, till that sucker sings the song we want to hear; it usually doesn't!

Just because you can't see them doesn't mean they're not there. The quickest way to bring them to the light is to make an attitude adjustment. Someone said to me one time, "well, if I can't see them then I just don't believe they're there." I said, "Do you believe you got a brain?" He said yes, I said, "you ever seen it?"

So, don't tell me you can't believe what you can't see. The right attitude will also give you the motivation to work your work until the changes come. You can seriously delay positive changes by going around with a sour pus; woe is me, just my dumb luck frame of mind. You were not meant to be the devil's whipping boy. Don't act like it.

You may think you're down for the count and stuck with a face only a mother could love, but there is no problem that is unsolvable. Form the following attitude, and don't allow your head to talk you out of it; your heart knows what is best.

Entertain High Hopes!

Tell yourself these phrases everyday. Say them out loud! This is warfare and you have got to take military strength action with your attitude to make an impression on your emotions. This is no time to go around with a mealy-mouth, wussified, Casper the friendly ghost, milky toast type of attitude.

You've got to get serious and mean; Say this: "I am a winner", "I am an overcomer" "this game is not over because I strike out"; it's my bat, it's my ball, God is the umpire, and we'll play till I win. You may ask, "Now what will saying all this do for my attitude?" Glad you asked.

Go Like The Wind!

These words are fuel; fuel for your emotions, fuel for your spirit, and fuel for your attitude. But these words are like aviation jet fuel with power to energize your motivation and make you feel like running through a troop and jumping over a wall. And, heaven knows we all need some of that. Just Do it now!

The Law of Attraction

By now you've probably heard the buzz about the Law of Attraction. It's the concept that says that you can have, be or do anything that you want no matter how large it might be.

The Law of Attraction is an extremely simple concept that we've all heard before. Simply put it's 'Like Attracts Like'.

In very simple terms the Law of Attraction says that what you think about and what you feel is what you will attract. This sounds too simple to be true, but with only a small bit of experimentation you'll be able to prove this for yourself.

In order to do that you'll need some basic principles.



Principle #1 The Universe is Neutral

The Universe doesn't care or even realize that you may have wants and needs. It simply exists and the elements that exist within it operate under very basic rules. 'Like attracts like' is one of those rules.


In order to use the Law of Attraction purposefully you must develop a level of self-awareness that will let you avoid negative thoughts and concentrate on the positive. One of the problems that many people experience is the fact that they are constantly thinking about what they don't want.



Principle #2 What you think and what you feel is what you get

The Universe doesn't hear "I don't want debt". It only hears the subject of the thought, which in this case was 'debt'. Thoughts have a certain amount of energy, but feelings actually project more energy, therefore the universe will respond to what you feel over what you think. Remember that this is a process and that you will spend some time identifying and deleting old thoughts, habits and patterns. When you see something that you'd like to have and instantly think "I'll never be able to afford that", just remember that this can take awhile. Don't beat yourself up over the occasional negative thought like that. Just remember that this is about learning a new way to think and feel.



Principle #3 You must ask for what you want

When you think about something you want you project your intent. When you write down what you want you are projecting a stronger intent by giving your intention more energy. When you make time each day to visualize and experience what you want then you are showing the Universe exactly what you want to attract.



Principle #4 You must give yourself permission to receive

This is a step that many people have a hard time with. They may ask for something such as love, happiness or money, but in their hearts they may not believe that they deserve it. It doesn't matter what you ask for if you don't believe that you can get it! If you can't honestly visualize yourself in that situation then the Universe will not manifest it for you. This leads into the next step.




Principle #5 You must be in alignment with what you are asking for

Say a prayer, cast a spell, light a candle or some incense, visualize, affirm, look in the classifieds, get a new suit, whatever. DO something that puts you on the path to receiving that which you desire. Take action. Act as if you already have the money or the love or the car or whatever. Live as if your desire has already manifested. You give much more energy to your intent if you back it up with action.



Principle #6 Start at a level which is believable for you

The Universe is unlimited in its potential. The Universe doesn't recognize size or amounts or depth or any other qualifier. Those are all human qualifications that we place on things. The Universe only sees energy. With that in mind you should, technically, be able to instantly manifest a million dollars, or a new house or a new spouse. In reality most of us have to build up to asking for the big things, and that is perfectly fine. Have faith in your process and don't worry about HOW you are going to manifest, just trust and get on with it. Start with something small and develop your abilities. The more you use it and the more success you have the better you'll be able to make the Law of Attraction work for you.



Principle #7 Have FUN with this

Life is an amazing experience. Every day you are surrounded by miracles and wonders. Enjoy it! Be happy and experiment. Try new things, ask for more, play with the world as if it were your toy and spread that joy and love and laughter and then look at what you are manifesting.



Take some time and experiment with these simple concepts. Feel free to experiment and play and enjoy the process. This should NOT be hard or stressful, life in an abundant and unlimited Universe is not meant to be so. Feel good and follow your bliss.

Letting Go Can Be Hard But Doable

Being a coach, I learned through attending Coach University about letting go of the "stuff" in my life that no longer fueled it. This enhanced itself through my studies in becoming a master practitioner in the laws of attraction -- the process of how our environment, the things and people in it, affect what we attract in the present moment. Along with this came of sensing the heaviness of possessions.

My journey began eight years ago and even today I am still letting go except the items have thinned out considerably. I discovered through time that the process needed to occur in increments and in small amounts. It was as if I needed to grieve a little in between. Even though that may sound stupid, it does to me too, it's my naked truth.

It began at my medicine chest. During my first honestly aware visit it was all I could do but toss out a few expired pills. Every week thereafter over the next month all I could do was remove one item here and there. Setting a goal of one a day only worked in spurts. Eventually, the cabinet, which didn't have much in the first place, was fully functional and only what I really needed.

Then came the linen closet and afterwards my home office. I sold a majority of my books on Amazon. As my shelves became more honest, and of course lighter, my writing began to change. My productivity doubled, my focus, commitment, and clarity took leaps. This was one of my happiness times during this project. The more I let go, the more my writing improved. I also made a New Year's resolution to stop buying books for a year. For an avid reader and book junkie this was painfully hard. I'm proud to say I made it to September before I broke.

The New Year's resolution included a side point -- I had to read to let go of every book on my shelf that I hadn't already read or that didn't fit my current needs. This philosophy is still in effect. The next year I progressed and came up with the one-book in and one-book out policy. I'm not always successful, yet, I've found it a good rule of thumb, especially for the wallet. The sale profits sit in a savings account and the account only allows one withdrawal a month. This maintains orderly spending for my weakest link -- buying too many books. It worked for a few years until I developed my own discipline and discernment. Was it easy, heck no! In fact, I can remember times when my logic and desires were in the boxing ring. Does it get easier, heck yes!

During the book honesty process I had to develop a new reading-research system. This required me to read and process the information different. I started a journaling system, first manual, then computerized. It also created a very productive self-learning process that I found absolutely fabulous and still use today.

Responsibility to maintain even what is hidden away or what remains holds a lot of unseen debiting energy. Letting go is removing the debits so there is room for new credits to enter. I could feel the energy getting zapped. Kitchen appliances making me feel guilty because I don't use them frequently.

Now my life is getting simpler and my writing is improving immensely. I no longer want very much nor dream of buying this or that. Advertising no longer pulls my strings longer than a few seconds which is a fabulous freedom.

Letting go isn't easy. There is the stage of acknowledgment. At this stage you will realize how some things hold you back. Even today, on occasion, it seems weird knowing that even stuff hidden away in a closet or storage unit can affect my present and future success. New doors opened in my writing and beliefs. You will see your gifts blossom as you move past the doubt and experience these moments.

The second stage is deciding what you are ready to let go of. This can only be done in the present moment. It requires seeing the truth of what the items are really costing you balanced with removing the doubt. Self-trust and confidence builds in big ways during this stage. The more you experience the results the more self-trust increases and doubt decreases.

The fear that you will one day need what it is you are letting go is a hard step. And self-honesty is the only solution. Easier for some things than with others. During my eight years on working through this process, only twice did I find I really missed something. And a short time later I found a replacement that either saved me time or increase productivity many times over.

The third stage is the results stage. Life will become easier, less overwhelming and stressful, and more creative. You will have more time for the things that really matter most. You will also need to learn not to settle for just any ole stuff again. Everything that enters now will have a blessed energy that fuels your life. It will fuel your life and encourage even more letting go.

Where do you want to start today? The medicine cabinet, a drawer, or your desk. Be honest with it. What can you let go today to gain more energy tomorrow?

Love at first sight?

Yes, men think so...or is it 'lust' at first sight? How can a woman or man 'really' know?



If a woman thinks it is 'love at first sight', she may have found an incredibly 'hot' guy who matches her ideal social persona 'catch'. If this guy actually knows how to be a natural, all women will want him and she will have to fight with others to 'keep him' (I can teach you to be this man).



Otherwise most of them appear to be quite boring because they try to impress her and don't 'get it'. But when dealing with 'love at first sight', yes it might be, but then longer term dynamics start to sink in and kind of spoil it.



Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder, I mean, beholder.



'Love at first sight' is usually only perceptionally based if not in its entirety. No one can match up ideally to one person's expectation of who they are or who they should be. Once you find out more about them, you're going to be disappointed in what you thought they were. See how selfish we as people really are?!



Eventually you go through the hardships of a 'real' relationship and very very rarely will everything work out perfectly where the people are a real match (at least in our highly developed, opinionated, individualistic cultural society).



You are only throwing your perception or ideals on who you think that person is or should be (I have done this a lot in the past). We want a person to be the ideal match to what WE think they should be. Most often if not all the time, we find out they are not actually what we idealized and then are a little disappointed. A real relationship is going to take a lot of work and a lot more work than two 'simpler' people.



If you can spark attraction shortly after you meet a woman, there is a more realistic chance she will feel deeper emotions for you than her social persona (of what states what she says she wants) and she will often forgive your other misgivings as long as you understand natural attraction.



This is actually very generous of her because now, guys (way) below her level physically actually have a chance. The process of attraction is slightly different for men and women.



Men will often instantly disqualify women for a sexual relationship based on their looks (ahem), while women keep an open mind to see who knows how to make them 'feel' the feelings that they respond to so powerfully physiologically and emotionally. They are interested in a mans character attributes because that are things that can be of interest for the long haul.



These feelings have a biological root which she cannot choose or control. This is why an average looking guy who 'get's it' can have more of a chance than a good looking guy who easily proves himself wrong to her right away.



She will resent that most of her counterparts do not 'get it' yet but will be open to starting something with a man who finally can just 'lead her through' the natural process of attraction...then often sex 'just happened' or she got 'swept away'..this is the way it is supposed to be and that she fantasizes about (and reads in those sappy romance novels).



Don't be thrown off by what a woman says she wants if you are not that social reflection of her consciousness yourself, she is programmed biologically to react to men who are true naturals with her or who display aspects of being a natural. Do not let that stop you. Her biological inheritance (when in tandem with a true natural man) will override ANY social programming she may have, as long as he maintains true congruency and doesn't 'screw it up'.



If you are a natural you probably won't screw it up when you are reaching that part of her (there is much more leniency here). If you are 'walking on egg shells' by trying to be 'qualified' by her social persona, it's virtually a guarantee you'll screw it up even with any small move. Take the very ending of 'Boat Trip' where Roselyn Sanchez says to the wussy Cuba Gooding, Jr. character, "Ok, but you BETTER not screw it up."



Sure the movie ends with a kiss but who has the control here? Whose reality is he in? Love at first sight, but he is based in the wrong paradigm of 'being' that he WILL screw it up because of the power dynamics and several other factors (she is in control by far).



In fact, you will almost put aside the entire notion of 'love at first sight' because it's too romancey for you (although you may secretly keep that dream alive); but you understand reality a little more, that different relationships with different women are going to give you different experiences.



Of course you may be aware of lust at first sight with women you see most everywhere you go, but you really have to get to know her more to find out who she is, otherwise it is all just perception.



If you can develop yourself to look as good as you can and get your internal paradigm and life straight and clear, then you can naturally accelerate the process of attracting women and starting things with little effort. Your focus should really be on developing yourself and living in a natural paradigm, while denying all of the perceptual B.S. that is going on. Be an interesting and intriguing man and improve yourself; HAVE something to offer women who are lucky enough.



Your 'love at first sight' from their point of view only happens if you match their social ideal (and traditional ideal of Prince Charming) and then know how to take everything from there...then all women will want you. You do not have to be Prince Charming..that is another article, but remember how you relate to her says everything. She needs to be turned up like a volume knob and you have to interact with her to spark the process of sexual attraction and her interest will grow in you...through time, may lead to infatuation, love, great respect, devotion, passion, etc. from her.



It is all in how you relate to her so don't pay too much attention to having to have Brad Pitt looks, with Soros' bank account...that's the same as you wanting to date a supermodel, except you probably have a better chance than she does to meet your ideal because there are so few men left who really get it and are a great catch in their own right (with some nice social status to boot).



There are countless beautiful women. The advantage and favor is in YOUR hands. There are few men left who are awesome catches AND who know how to deal with these women. Make women want you just by being your true self at all times; an interesting, funny, great guy and know how to take it from there (I can help you there as well).

Paying the Bills Truly CAN Be Painless

Understanding how the Law of Attraction works to send me more of whatever I'm feeling, I decided that I wanted to feel good about Paying the Bills.

Ugh! The handful of bills feels like an armload of bricks. My stomach hurts and - darn! Where did that calculator go, anyway? I scrounge through my wallet for the latest ATM slip. The balance mirrors my desire to perform this monthly ritual of Paying the Bills: virtually nil. Yet there's a tiny voice in the back of my mind asking, "Will I always feel this awful about Paying the Bills?"

I remember how I felt when my dad performed the ritual of Paying the Bills. The tension would escalate as he prepared the dining room table as his workspace. Out came the ledger, the check-book, three sharpened pencils, a big rubber eraser, a black-ink pen and a large calculator. I would run for my bedroom when the confrontation began: "Why did you spend so much on this?" "You didn't write down how much check number 222 was for!" It seemed safer to hide in my room and blot out those sounds by listening to my radio.

When I got married, my husband carried on the ritual of Paying the Bills. He performed his duties with an even scarier tactic - icy silences, followed by a verbal blast three days after Paying the Bills. I never got used to this new, darker aspect of the ritual.

You might think that after 50+ years of experiencing Paying the Bills this way that the ritual MUST be acted out full of anxiety, fear, accusations and threats. Not so. I'm living proof that even if you've performed the ritual this way for as long as you can remember, you can change the entire mood of Paying the Bills.

Understanding how the Law of Attraction works to send me more of whatever I'm feeling, I decided that I wanted to feel good about Paying the Bills. I asked myself this question: When do I feel good about writing checks or spending money? The answer: When I'm shopping for things that I enjoy and appreciate. So, I decided to change the name of the ritual from Paying the Bills to Spending Money! As soon as I did that, my mood shifted.

At first, I had to remind myself that I'm Spending Money! and I LOVE Spending Money! I had to consciously replace the phrase Paying the Bills with Spending Money! Now it's natural to think of the ritual as Spending Money!

Then I reminded myself of all the blessings I receive for the services that I'm Spending Money! on. I LOVE the way I'm able to speak with clients and friends, children and grandchildren who live far from me, by phoning them. So I LOVE Spending Money! to pay for the use of my telephone.

I LOVE the extra time I gain by the software enhancements my programmer has developed for my business, so I LOVE Spending Money! on programming.

I LOVE all the freedom I have to order my day for work and play, so I LOVE Spending Money! on secretarial and bookkeeping services.

I LOVE living in a beautiful luxurious harborside condo, so I LOVE Spending Money! to live here.

Now I look forward to the privilege of Spending Money! Each week I perform this ritual with such joy that by the time I've balanced four checking accounts, written a dozen or so checks, photocopied statements, stapled receipts, addressed and stamped all the envelopes, I am HIGH! I LOVE Spending Money!

The next time you begin the ritual of Paying the Bills, just try and NOT think of what you are doing as Spending Money! Now that you know it's possible to have fun Spending Money! the old ritual just won't be the same.

Do you have a secret dream, desire or hope?

Sexual Attraction… I Slept With Elvis

The girl says to her girlfriend, “Elvis has such sexual attraction I just couldn't resist and I slept with him on the first date! Then I discover he does not have good husband qualities and he is just a ladies man. He has such an aurora such an attraction I just couldn't resist and I just can't believe I did it.” It happens every day ladies. 

Look out girls here comes the King of Seduction. Elvis will drop you to your knees with sexual energy that will have you dreaming for days, but when you come out of Elvis's spell you will be on a waiting list to see Elvis again. Can you deal with it my dear? Elvis is looking for a wife but he expects it will take another 30 years to find the perfect girl. He is the ultimate playboy of playboys. He is the guru of the guru's. The guy the experts go to when they have problems with girls. 

 Elvis is Not exactly the perfect candidate from most women's point of view. So ladies if you date Elvis Preston King you risk being dumped for the next pretty face that comes along. Believe me when Elvis walks down to the corner a new pretty face will step around the corner and she too will be Elvis's girl. Consider yourself warned my darlings. So my little dream girl what have you got to loose if you don't have sex on the first date with Elvis. A hot night with Elvis Preston King, of course! 

But lets look at Elvis's position of the top playboy in the world from the wanna be pick up artists view. Men like to get laid. Elvis gets laid every day by new and exciting European girls. They love that American accent “thank you very much mam.”  

Elvis is the world's number 1 pick up artist, the king of seduction and has not written a book and he does not put on seminars but he is looking for a buddy who wants to hang out and meet a zillion beautiful girls. Is Elvis a nice guy? What make the difference if he can get you laid like that? Can Elvis get you laid? Dahhh…think about it….

Ten Top Tips about Committing to Your Niche

Among the crucial questions of life, one of great import may just be “what is my niche?” Should you want to answer that question, what path do you follow? Where are “niches” for sale? The word “niche” comes from the French and means “dog house…” Could one say that a niche is where the dog (your offer, your talents, your specialty skills) comes to rest? And since loyalty is a canine virtue, the niche is where you are bound to find your most reliable clients… And if a dog is a man's best friend, I propose that a niche is your home sweet home, the place where the heart is. I imply that your niche is your beloved.

1. Freedom?

A dog's loyalty is sometimes viewed as boring while a cat's freedom can be so much more intriguing… Although the sense of security, of home sweet home, can be reassuring, a niche is strangely enough something professionals resist, in a way not unlike a bachelor resisting commitment and marriage. The thought might be that it is too limiting to have just one relationship, one niche, when they are so many attractive possibilities… How can I pick?

2. Until Death Do Us Part

And why tying the knot when there are so many risks to not liking your niche after a while? Maybe the advantages, call them “bones,” don't have enough marrow to decide someone to say “I do…” Once you are no longer afraid that your niche might be difficult to choose, you may find yourself concerned that this commitment is a forever thing, that you won't ever ever be able to move again! I believe this is termed a case of “cold feet!”

3. Decisions, Decisions…

Possibly, you have narrowed your choices down to two prospects; a blond, and a brunet, and your heart is balancing between both… Maybe it is that your niche is to cater to artists, and to engineers… One has qualities the other hasn't. See if you can assess what those two “beauties” have in common, the ways they are similar…

4. Oh, Oh, I Need You So…

Now that you have surrendered to the wisdom of finding your niche, ask yourself: Where are you most needed? Where can your work be most appreciated? Where are the people whose dreams would be fulfilled by your offering, whose hunger would be nourished by your gift, whose challenges would be soothed by your talents? Who is it natural, easy and fun for you to serve?

5. A Match Made In Heaven

After a while, you may start noticing recurring themes, and feel that you are consistently at the right time and the right place. You will recognize patterns, and decipher who is naturally drawn to your talents. Your niche is the place where you have a natural advantage because you're in the flow of life. The poet says: ”Today may be the day when I meet the Beloved…” Today may be the day when your niche comes to you…

6. I And My Beloved Are One…

Beyond the physical attraction, is the relationship going to last? You may either stipulate on the type of clients you wish to attract, or learn from the clients you have already attracted and assess the impact you made. Beyond Karmic relationships, the other possibility is to come to know yourself, to meet yourself, to love yourself. Since your match (client) can only be a mirror of who you are, you may choose to develop your strengths and talents, while working on your shortcomings. Thus the outer reflection will reveal more and more to you the beauties of your inner Beloved.

7. The Question Of Soul Mates

In matters of niche, I have heard one of my favorite marketing experts, Kendall Summerhawk, talk of “core deliverables,” as what is delivered from your heart… Should you reveal in writing, that is your core deliverable. Or it may be the internet, art, or speaking. As a matter of fact, here is where the myth of the one and only is just not acceptable! In truth, we have as many soul mates, as we have core deliverables…

8. True Love

Do you feel a passion for this? Do you like the neighborhood of your niche? Is the exposition correct for you? Has your intuition led you to this? Are you having an opportunity to bring all that you are to the table? Can you be brilliant, powerful and talented beyond measure in your niche environment? Is it the optimal place for you to show up, and turn on your light?

9. What About Children?

In niche mating, the children are the benefits experienced by the clients, the results they receive from playing with you; your legacy, if you would… What do you provide your clients? What emotions does your work trigger? Is it peace of mind, joy, ease, revelation, motivation, empowerment? Is it exaltation, the knowing of your own leadership, of your own greatness?

10. Happily Forever After

Time flies when you're having fun, and soon you find yourself happily married to your Beloved niche. Not only do you have children that make you a proud parent, and also, you come to enjoy the respectability of being viewed as an expert, and the many referrals that come from that. Narrowing your focus has now made you genuinely more visible in your field. The long forgotten fear of saying “I do” has turned into the vibrant “YES” that breeds confidence and success. From dogs and cats to niches and sweet homes, love is here to stay!

The Art of Diverting Negative Energy

We are living in a time when we need to look at and hopefully transform our mental and emotional habits. The "season of adversity" is the best time to start dropping a few wealth, health, protection, success and happiness seeds into our deeper mind and fertilizing them with powerful loving emotions. The realization that the changes we seek on the outside must first be made within our own consciousness is beginning to dawn on many. Where is your attention focused? Globalisation of the marketplace, world governments, media groups, and institutions cannot bring about an inner awakening to the Power Within. They cannot get you out of debt, heal your loneliness, transform your fear and anger, or free you from the affects of erroneous mental habits. Your images, ideas, beliefs, patterns and perceptions of yourself, color the world you live in. ·Are issues of poverty or success, war or peace, illness or health, love or hate confronting you from every side? ·Do you allow your thoughts to run wild with negative images after you read a headline, or hear threatening news? ·Do you know how to direct your mind and steady your focus on positive images regardless of the opinions and distasteful acts of people you are in contact with? ·Are your emotional reactions capsizing you and your dreams? ·Are you capable of "floating your own boat" through a storm? Why should you keep on absorbing or resonating with negative energy?Just decide what you want and start to consciously image it. Tuning into "The Source of All That Is" permits you to separate yourself "vibrationally" from people who are operating from misguided beliefs. The moment you feel your joy, your emotional reactions will dilute and or neutralize any negative energy being sent your way. There isn't one emotional problem that can't be solved using the Principle of Imaging. There is One Eternally Present Power. Change and motion are its attributes. Desire summons it! This One Source of energy vibrates at different frequencies. There is polarity in all of life including whatever you are facing. Everything is a dance of opposites. Good and evil, light and dark, positive and negative, rejection and acceptance, failure and success, poverty and good fortune, sickness and health are all essentially the same in nature. They are simply opposite parts or contrasted extremes of the same thing. They differ only in degree of frequency. Polarity deals with the flow of energy. It is up to you to use your emotions in a beneficial rather then a destructive way. It is up to you to figure out where your emotions are vibrating because the Power to Create operates in the here and now. Why give your Power of Awareness to the past or to the negative? Why continue to fuel regrets and be swept away by yesterdays painful memories? Do you want to become a master artisan and turn water into wine, sorrow into joy, and rejection into opportunity? If so, seize the moment. When your energy is in alignment you will feel inspired and opened to limitless possibilities. You are the pattern maker of your life. Your emotions can flow in the direction of solution or in the direction of conflict and crisis. Questions: ·Do you run away from looking at yourself and your habits but find it easy to blame others? ·Do you resist change and hide out rather then live your life to the fullest? ·Do you turn back to old ways when a crisis appears? ·Do you focus on illness, terror, death and suffering? ·Do you concentrate on depressing headlines and the dark side of things? ·Do you allow "emotional bleeders" to suck up all your joy like a vacuum cleaner draws in dirt? ·Do you wallow in hell and then eagerly call friends to involve them in your self made misery? If so, you are giving doubts and fears permission to cling to and smother your dreams and desires. The quality of your thoughts anchors you into worthwhile or undesirable states of mind. To the degree that you refuse to change, you will continue to invite suffering and distress into your life. Everything you are harvesting in your life is a mirror to what you planted and allowed others to plant in your womb of wonder! The Universal Law of Vibration explains that thoughts, matter and life are vibratory. This means everything is moving, swinging, and dancing, including your thoughts (whether you can see movement or not). We live in a sea of belief and we are being bombarded by negative ideas morning, noon and night. What side of the pole do you get magnetized to when an uncomfortable situation arises? The problem side or the solution side? Every time you allow someone to trigger your grief, fear, anger or sadness you simply give them carte blanche to tighten the chains around your soul. Every time you emotionally respond to negative stimuli (from guilt, anger, worry, or fear) you are in vibrational agreement with it. This means you are vibrating from their image. I call this deferred occupancy. Once your feelings are in harmony with the negative, you are aborting your own chosen mental image and your dream is withering away. Whether you know it or not Spiritual Principles are always operating on the mental, emotional and physical planes of existence. And they don't respect a person's income, color, or heritage. They operate according to unyielding laws. 6 Reasons to Pay Attention to the Moods of Others as Well as your Own. 1.The moment you consent to being around someone in a lower negative vibration and you are in harmony with that vibration, you will come down a notch from your joy and leave your self wide open to attract the results of that belief and mood. 2.Limitless opportunities open up when you learn to laugh in the face of adversity. As you vibrate from joy, peace, forgiveness or love, you invite the fulfillment of your dream into your life. When you send good thoughts to someone vibrating from negative emotions you will give off energy. You will telepathically messenger that person. If he or she is in harmony with joy, love or peace he will take on your gift. 3.Thoughts create. There is no such thing as fiction. If people are indulging in ideas that are harmful to you it is wise to learn how to excuse yourself from their company. They may not have a clue about choosing thoughts and intentional creation. But you do! 4.Emotional moods influence and direct everything towards that which they are in tune with. 5.When you can sustain a higher mood around a miserable person, you will know that you are in alignment with your dream fulfilled and have overcome the negative energy field of that person. 6.In your delight and joyful moods you will grow and advance spiritually. People who indulge in negativity are destructive to themselves and to others. People who dwell in positive, hopeful moods benefit themselves as well as everyone in their environment. "When two or more are fused as one, Spirit's work on earth is done." This means when your conscious and subconscious mind are in agreement, manifestation will occur. It also means that when someone else originates an idea and you resonate with it - manifestation will occur. Let me give you some examples of the later point: A.Have you ever seen road rage? Someone gets real upset and starts honking his or her horn, cutting off people etc. Next thing you know 5 other cars are beeping and cursing someone. If you are someone who gets frustrated, upset and bent out of shape easily, and you meet Mr. Road Rage while out for a drive, you can bet money that once those angry thoughts are in the air and you respond, you will have become his or her road partner. You may not even know why you are suddenly mad or in a bad mood, or have a headache when you get home. B.Did you ever notice that come a certain season you are bombarded with cold and flu suggestions? Someone who is in the habit of letting his or her feelings run wild will tend to get sick. On the other hand if you are a positive, upbeat, happy person who always strengthens your health beliefs you will not resonate with this disease strategy. C.If you are vulnerable and can easily be made to feel guilty by an aggressive, jealous person and you walk into their energy field, you can bet millions that their vibrations will strike a blow at the guilt cells in your brain. They will strangle your joy and leave you impotent and unable to walk away from their nonsense. Negative thoughts are detrimental to the person thinking them as well as those who resonate with them. D.Have you ever tried to change a drinking or eating habit? You are going along doing fine when someone you care about lashes out at you with a comment that collapses your focus. It strikes up a chord of rejection in your memory bank. Before you know it, you are back at the cookie jar or reaching for the nearest drink. As the Dalai Lama once said: "The road to happiness is rigged with land mines. There are destructive emotions that cause pain and suffering and can be triggered at any time by people whose minds are not trained to apply the antidotes to overpower the negative with the positive." Rest assured that whatever energy you give off and arouse in others you will in time attract back a similar amount of that same energy. Until you know how to move into new states of mind and consciously energize new positive images you will be at the mercy of negative personalities and their misuse of energy. Toxic people love to scream and rant about what is wrong with everything and everyone. They try to ignite fear in others. The next time your world comes crashing down all around you and you feel like you are being targeted with negative images fueled by terror and fear, stop everything. Step back and go refocus and re-energize yourself. Turn to the Source of All That Is. Rather then feeling exhausted and irritated you will feel energized and alive. Rather then feeling unjustly attacked you will feel protected and safe. Rather then feeling rejected and unappreciated you will feel accepted, acknowledged and loved. Here are a few suggestions on recycling your feelings. 1.Never surrender your joy. Learn to deflect rather then engage. Educate and communicate. If someone shouts the sky is falling, you might say "yes, but its such a beautiful color blue, and on such a perfect glorious day"? In other words, anchor yourself in the present moment where peace and goodness prevail. The negative energy will boomerang if you are not resonating with it. 2.Do your best to lighten up and resist the urge to challenge negative people if you are still resonating from old fearful feelings. It takes two to tango. Either walk off the dance floor or do a solo. 3.If someone close to you is content to run their mouth on the latest disease that is sure to wipe out the planet, rather then succumb to their gloom and doom, you might remind them that "All is well in the bigger picture". As soon as you can, find a reason to end the conversation. 4.Look for opportunities to uplift yourself. 5.No one can stop you from thinking wonderful, creative, prosperous thoughts. As you do this you will set desirable things into motion. 6.Believe that everything is simply magnificent in your life. The happier you are, the more room there is for the fulfillment of dreams. 7.Pay attention to your feelings. They are always telling you if you are drawing your dream to yourself or pushing it away. 8.The moment you feel yourself on a negative course pay attention to the signal. Change directions and start focusing in the direction of the solution. "Your Feelings are your point of attraction. What you seek (feel) is seeking you. Simply put this means you are always free to move in and out of any feeling/frequency at any moment you desire to experience a new result." Your emotions are your inner guides. They tell you what direction your life experience is going in. The more frustrated and irritated you are the more you know your dreams and life remain unfulfilled. The more joy filled you are the more you know you are fulfilling your destiny. What are your emotions telling you?

The Secrets to Being a Happy Bachelor

Being single gives you time to explore what make you happy. In the case of your king, Elvis Preston King it is lots of different hot chics. I wake up every morning excited about which new girlfriend I will seduce and make mad passionate love to later in the day! 

Forget what society wants for you…think about what makes you happy. There is nothing like being in a really hot love affair. Just leave yourself a little time for the OTHER GIRLS! If I was a bachelor without hot chics I would be a miserable soul. 

Unfortunately most men don't know what it takes in the area of attraction to attract a stable of playmates. If you are one of these men bridge that weakness by hanging out with a wingman who knows how to get the girls. This is a hard feat but it just so happens the king of seduction does not have a wingman or sidekick. Your author holds the world record of the most seductions of hot 18 year old chics over any man on the planet. He currently is available to help you get your fair share of hot chicks. 

To be a happy bachelor, you need to redefine your self as a playboy bachelor by choice. With Elvis Preston King , the king of seduction by your side you don't have to settle for some hand me down from the locals single club with truck loads of baggage. You can get yourself a hot young babe or two or three or four or how ever many you want and have it your way. 

Don't worry about Mom pushing you to get a nice wife she'll get accustomed to you being a playboy bachelor eventually. 

Being a bachelor gives you a chance to get to now yourself, your idiosyncrasies, your egocentricities and it gives you a chance to get to know lots of hot chics in an intimate and sexual way. (With Elvis Preston King at your side.) 

Celebrate being a bachelor. If sleeping alone is not for you let Elvis King show you how to sleep with your dream girls with out falling into a marriage trap. We wouldn't want to have it all going for us like Donald Trump and Larry Ellison did an upset the applecart by marrying one of the girls. 

Long live the bachelor KING and his new WINGMAN… YOU. 

The Top 10 Ways to Choose a Good Partner

Here are the top 10 ways to choose a good partner using your emotional intelligence.

1. Sexual attraction is based on a primitive and powerful
feeling that can "hijack" us.

It comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It is not, in
itself, a reason to act or react. Don't let yourself get "hijacked." Take a second look; get up to your limbic brain (bonding, parenting, relationships) and your neocortex
(thinking)for this important decision. More on this later.

2. Touching is very important to our mental and physical health.

Choose a partner who is affectionate, who likes to touch you and be touched.

3. Most communication is nonverbal.

Choose a partner who looks at you with affection and kindness in their eyes. Emotions are contagious and largely transmitted through the eyes!

4. Think as well as feel your way through this decision.

Emotional intelligence means using all 3 of your brains -- including the neocortex, the thinking brain. Contrary to what some people think, EQ doesn't mean "only emotions." It means
thinking as well as feeling. Consider compatibility -- family background, values, goals, how he or she takes care of their physical and mental health. Consider general living style. The find-a-roommate-site asks just a few questions. Among them are -- drug use, when you like to get up and go to bed, your level of neatness, and how quiet you like it to be. Pay attention.
You'll be living with this person. Do use your intuition. It's a strong guide. Take advantage of it. If you need to develop your intuition, work with an EQ ( http://www.susandunn.cc ) or Intuition coach ( http://www.bemyguide.net ).

5. Consider the emotional self-awareness of your partner, and
their awareness of your emotions; their ability at empathy.

Studies show that one of the most predictive traits for compatibility is if one partner is able to sense the sadness of the other.

6. How optimistic is this person ?

Optimism is the facilitator of all the emotional intelligence competencies. In addition, optimists live longer, enjoy better health, heal more quickly, and accomplish more. Emotions are
contagious, and optimism is a forcefield you want in your life.
It can be learned ( http://www.susandunn.cc/courses.htm ).

7. Be intentional and expect it in your partner.

Intentionality is an EQ competency that means saying what you mean and meaning what you say. It also means being accountable for the motives behind your actions. You'll need to be in touch
with this yourself, and have a partner who is as well, because partnering requires a commitment, i.e., Intentionality. Intentionality means you're not "allowed" to say, "I didn't
mean to ..." High-level skill. Good one to look for.

8. Consider the level of your intended partner's resilience.

You'll be together a long time, through ups and downs, and life can throw some curves. How do they manage adverse events and setbacks? Do they bounce back eventually? Have they been able
to grow through adversity, not just go through it?

9. How do you and your partner manage anger--your own anger and that of the other?

Studies show that the most successful couples are those who are able to soothe one another instead of agitating and escalating in an argument.

10. How balanced is their life?

Do they combine learning, working and leisure? Studies show that people who die in their 5th and 6th decade have this life trajectory: school, then work, then leisure. Resilient seniors
combine all three during all stages of life. You'll want the one you love to be around a long time!

Use the Law of Attraction to Build Your Business

Have you ever had something you wanted just fall into place; come to you through an out-of-the-blue phone call or by coincidentally meeting someone on the street? Have you ever met the perfect client or life partner--just by being at the right place at the right time?

Many of us have various ways to describe this phenomenon; serendipity, coincidence, fate, karma, luck, it was meant to be, self-fulfilling prophecy, what comes around goes around, and success breeds success. All of these expressions describe what is known as the Law of Attraction.

Law of Attraction can be defined as: You attract to your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted.

If you wish to attract more money, referrals, clients, contracts, business partners, or anything else your heart desires, it is essential to understand the workings of the Law of Attraction.

The first step is to know more about our use of Declarative Statements and how they contribute to Law of Attraction. A Declarative Statement is a positive statement of what we want to attract, that elevates our mood or feeling. Examples include: "I love the way money comes to me effortlessly in expected and unexpected ways.", "It feels so good knowing that business comes to me in all seasons." and, "I love the way my reputation attracts clients to me."

When people fail, it's often because they have unconsciously made Declarative Statements to themselves that are negative, such as: "Money comes in one hand and out the other.", "I take one step forward and two steps back." or, "My business slows down during the summer months." These statements have negative feelings and moods attached to them.

Re-read the definition of Law of Attraction: We attract into our lives whatever we give our attention to, whether wanted or unwanted. Law of Attraction responds to these negative feelings and gives us more of them. Law of Attraction does not know whether it is something you want or not; it simply responds to your mood or feeling and gives you more of it.

Each time you hear yourself make a Declarative Statement that does not serve you, simply restate it and offer a better mood or feeling. Here is a quick way to turn a negative statement into a positive Declarative Statement.

Simply ask yourself: "So, what do I want?"

The moment you define what you do want, you start to experience a new mood or feeling, and Law of Attraction will respond to this better mood or feeling.

Over the next few days, start to notice what is appearing in your life, that is, what you are attracting. Then think back to what mood or feeling you may have offered that could have attracted what appeared. You'll soon find yourself manifesting more and more of what you do want, and less of what you don't want, by deliberately putting the Law of Attraction to work for you.

Women and Bad Boys: What Is The Attraction?

If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself.

There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"!

So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not necessarily that they are more physically attractive or smarter or more successful than the "nice guys". In fact, they can have fewer of these qualities, yet be harder to resist.

So what is it? Let's begin by defining these guys. This term is generally applied to males who treat women poorly. Do these behaviors ring a bell?

*calling at 8:30 on a Saturday night to ask if you want to get together

*not showing up for a date- followed by no phone call or apology

*never having any money when you are out

* forgetting or ignoring your birthday and other important dates

*flirting openly with other women when you are together

*hitting on your good friend(s)

*making booty calls at 1am, after they've had a night out with others

*is doing time for a serious felony

Instead of asking "what is it about these guys"; let's instead examine what it is about the women who can't resist them. The following are actual statements from women who have a history of attraction to these guys. See if any of these sound familiar.

* "It's never BORING with him. He's unpredictable and exciting."

* "He's strong, aggressive and self-assured; I feel safe with him."

* "It's not his fault; he's trying to get his life together."

* "I haven't met anyone else that makes me feel the way he does."

* "He's so charming and passionate."

* "He tells me how much he likes me, so he must really feel something for me."

* "He needs me."

* "He doesn't come across as needy and desperate."

* "I can't believe I've attracted someone like him."

Now, on the face of these, they seem pretty benign. We all seek at least some of these traits in the men we choose. So, where's the problem?

Essentially it's in his inability to meet the woman's fundamental needs. She is the one doing all (or most) of the giving. The question then lies in; "what's in it for her?"

The answer can be found by exploring three basic issues:

*level of self-esteem

*capacity for intimacy

*roles that she has been in throughout her life

If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate who communicates both verbally and non-verbally to her that she is valued and respected. She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive self-worth. She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy, reciprocal relationship.

If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.

If a woman is capable of true intimacy, she is open to the true availability of the other person. She wants him to be a full and active participant in the relationship. She can allow herself to be open, vulnerable and able to take as well as to receive all that true intimacy offers.

If intimacy is difficult, she choose someone who is distant, hard to connect with and not emotionally and/or physically available.

If a woman has had a healthy role in her relationships since childhood, she will choose someone with whom she can continue this healthy interaction.

If a woman has been too long in the role of rescuer, caregiver or the one who sacrifices for the good of others, this will probably be the role she will seek out in her relationships.

Fortunately, most women fall somewhere in between on these issues. So the task is to evaluate yourself in each area and decide on a course of action that will help you to choose a "nice guy", who stirs your senses and meets your needs while being truly available for a real relationship.

Begin with an assessment of what you value most in life and cannot live without.

Go to http://www.consum-mate.com/newslets/02oct.htm for an article on "clarifying and living your values".

Once you know what is most important to you and believe that you are worthy of achieving it, you will have taken a giant step towards finding the right partner for you.

Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship coach with over 20 years of experience. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including: The Chicago Tribune and The Orlando Sentinel newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, and Star magazines. She has been featured on ABC News; Discovery Health Channel and AOL Online. As a weekly contributing commentator on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO), Toni offers dating tips and relationship advice in response to listener feedback. Toni founded Consum-mate.com in 2002 to offer singles the knowledge and tools they need to find and sustain healthy, lasting love relationships. She is a member of The International Coach Federation, and The International Association Of Coaches.